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Failure Traits That Impact Marketing Automation

We generally use one or more of these traits to help us survive perceived difficult circumstances when we are very young. As we get older, the habits might get more and more deeply integrated into our personalities, despite the fact that we really don’t need them to “survive,” anymore. This pattern is not good or bad; it just is.

Personality Traits that Steal Success in Marketing Automation

Personality traits that steal success (in my opinion)

  • Hot head
  • Not my fault
  • Door mat
  • God complex
  • Arrogance
  • Because of me
  • Derisive
  • Distant
  • Too independent
  • Too dependent
  • Gullible
  • Exclusive (I’m better than everyone else)
  • Superficial
  • Too positive
  • All talk, no action
  • Cynical
  • Wishful thinking (get rich quick)
  • The world owes me a living
  • Envy (I want what you have, without the work)
  • Victim
  • Dishonest
  • Doesn’t keep his or her word
  • Negative
  • Perfection oriented
  • Quitter
  • Lazy
  • And a few dozen I might have missed

Certainly, those descriptions fit all of us, on occasion

But, I’m talking about a situation in which one of the above is a significant part of a person’s approach to life.

Rewards

The qualities I list above, all have one of four payoffs, in my experience. Those payoffs give them power in our lives. They are:

  1. Being right (everyone else is wrong)
  2. Winning (everyone else loses)
  3. Self justification (I’m valuable no matter what others say)
  4. Control (I feel totally out of control and have no faith that things will be OK)

Survival

We generally use one or more of these traits to help us survive perceived difficult circumstances when we are very young. As we get older, the habits might get more and more deeply integrated into our personalities, despite the fact that we really don’t need them to “survive,” anymore. This pattern is not good or bad; it just is.

Cost

The cost is that we don’t realize our potential. If that is okay, or if you just think changing is too inconvenient, then carry on.

First key to change

See the issue. Most of us can’t see ourselves clearly. Show the list to someone you know and trust. Ask that person to tell you the truth. It might hurt. You might even need to show the list to several people. Usually, a pattern emerges and we can see the label that fits our situation.

Second key to change

See the cost. This is the big point. If you can’t see the cost, there is no reason to change. For some, a marriage might be at risk. For others, it is financial security. For yet others, it is a relationship with friends and family. Human nature tends to insulate us from seeing the cost; it won’t be easy and it won’t likely be quick.


Early in life

The list above is not good or bad; it is just a list of tactics human beings commonly adopt in order to survive. Usually these “strategies” are adopted very early on, and run unquestioned in our lives, because of the payoffs that I mentioned above. The trouble is, at some point we may want to move beyond the limits they impose.

Are you ready?

Maybe you are one of the very few who is just fine. Good for you. If you are getting into the zone where you are ready for a change, consider looking at the cost. Once you see that, you can begin to learn what triggers the behavior. Then you can begin to make an alternative choice. No, it’s not easy. If the cost is high enough, most people can do it.

You don’t have to be perfect

A dramatic improvement in your life and success does not require perfection; it just requires material progress. Except in people with mental defects, I have met very few who could not make progress sufficient to reap great rewards. Particularly with the support of loved ones and friends.

 

It’s your life and your success

Go for it! If the pattern no longer serves you well, and has an unacceptable cost; drop it, and move on to the success you deserve.


Are you ready to learn more about performance leadership for marketing automation? Contact Eric at 503-635-2319 or eric@apg7.com

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